Bullying is totally wrong, and unacceptable for any healthy relationship.
Unfortunately, bullying is a part of life for anyone. We cannot avoid negative and hurtful people who either do not see the error of their ways or have some kind of chip on their shoulder and enjoy taking out their frustrations on others. The difference in a healthy response and an unhealthy response is in how we respond to this. Confidence is paramount in our ability to repel those who want to bully us, and also a sense of community which allows us to talk about what is happening with those around us.
Tell Someone You Know and Trust
Bullying is not acceptable in any genuine life situation, we all want to get along, get down to business, and have a good time. Those who take part without this mental agenda will cause issues for all and so this is why it is important to be open about how we feel if we are being bullied. If your happiness and ability to get along is being affected, then this is important.
Telling someone we know and trust is how we communicate our problems and issues with our community. By remaining calm and considered, and then explaining what is going on and how it is making you feel, the listener is able to address the situation from a non biassed and emotionally disconnected point of view. If you don't feel you are being listened to, communicate this, or further still, find someone else.
They're Not Your Friends
It might be a real temptation to fight back, or try to make friends. Either response is playing to the bully game, in which they establish a connection with you which can be a route to further bullying. We can't be friends with someone who thinks it's OK to bully us and we can't win at life by fighting our way through it. Avoiding trouble and remaining clear of toxic friendships is the best way to get along.
By not getting involved with your bullies and sticking to friends that respect your feelings, we can be sure to not pick up their behaviours or stand at risk of being bullied again by them.
Don't Suffer In Silence
Bullies know that their power is based on an emotional level and without that fear or intimidation then their ability to harm is far less prevalent. If we keep it all inside, and not tell anyone about what is happening, then we end up becoming more bullied because the bullies get away with what they are doing. Knowing that their actions don't have consequences, they learn that it is possible to do this to not only you but perhaps others too.
It can be difficult to admit that others are getting to us, or hurting our feelings. No-one likes to be bullied and it can be upsetting for anyone. Talking about this with trusted and known people is a safe and noble way to take care of ourselves.
It Is Not Your Fault
Sometimes bullies can lead us to believe that we deserve what we are getting or that we asked for it. This is not true, as bullying is unacceptable. We can however take measures to avoid being bullied again in the same way as before, by following the advice on this post. We can be given the reason to believe a lot of negative things about ourselves, and bad judgements are often ways bullies can hurt us. By accepting these words as true, and taking them to heart, we are giving the bully the ability to hurt us. Rather than closing down and desensitising, or taking everything they say as true then trying to change, we can ask ourselves how we really feel. It is our responsibility to decide if we are unhappy with our lives, then it is up to us to decide how to best address this. Bullies like to think they can do this for you too. That's where they're wrong. A calm and honest conversation is all that is ever needed.
Bullies love nothing more when their victim stops attending, or stops playing a part in what ever it is they were bullied in. Their goal is to break someone's confidence and self esteem, and so we need to remember that it is their behaviour that is not welcome and not you. Like I said before, in genuine life situations, bullying is totally unacceptable. We must get along and if someone or some people are making things difficult then their actions need to be addressed in a calm and balanced way. Because of this it is important, once again, that we do not personally take it into our own hands. The non-biassed and community orientated way is the best way to keep matters as least complicated as possible.
Bullying UK has many helpful articles on bullying survival.