Growing up is about taking responsibility for yourself. It means being alone in your quest for your own truth, choosing who to allow to join you, who you want to help you and who you don't.
Responsibility isn't about doing the right thing, going ahead and following the path laid out for you by those who educate and instruct you. By blindly following that path, you are handing responsibility to them. True, you may not know what you want to do, and may not have a clear direction that you feel is right, and by all means, take the well trodden track down the highway, but take responsibility. Own the knowledge that you do not have your own path and that you are taking the first ride to something that will keep you going. All so often, these rides go round and round and we find ourselves unfulfilled and unsatisfied. It puts food on the table and heat in the rooms, but it is not responsible, it is handing ourselves in all essence to another person and their desire. We unit ourselves. Our occupation is very important to us, it decides how we place the focus of the majority of our awareness. Our awareness is our sacred gift that we have to experience life.
Responsibility for our actions, how we treat those we find ourselves surrounded by and interacting with. We are not responsible for the perception of ourselves according to another, but we are responsible for the perception of ourselves according to us. By accepting full responsibility for ourselves we are no longer prey to subduing remarks and accusations of irresponsibility. We become immune to the ways of the underminer.
Responsibility for who we allow in, for accepting people that mistreat us and disrespect us. To be responsible means to not attempt to change them but to change us. Do we allow them to do this, in our life? If we allow them in, we cannot complain when they act naturally. However that may be at the time.
Denial of oneself is the ultimate immaturity and results in continually looking to others for approval, direction and validation. These things are worthy to anyone, and are valid in their own way, but to rely upon others for them is not being responsible. We can take our own word for it, if it feels right.
Taking responsibility for our mind is important. Know that it is a human mind and that it is prone to error, confusion and not seeing the full picture. Understand that our minds can only work best in a linear fashion and any holistic image can only be understood in this way. Once we appreciate that we cannot fully understand any true concept of life at all, and that our hearts and gut will always know when something is right for us at that time, we can finally be mature enough to be responsible for our life, inside and out. Which ever path we take, which ever road, once we appreciate the thinking and feeling behind it, and own it, not project any form of blame or expectation upon anything, and just go with it, we are truly mature adults.
There is no judgment, there is no case, there is no real reason for joining the race, apart from joy.
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