As a Dad, with children some or most of the time, there are times when they're not here. With them, the pace is theirs, we go out if they are willing, and able, then sometimes we'll have some time out but it is always for them, doing their things, and I am still switched on. My role as Dad over rides any kind of joy from being in the outdoors, my happiness is from the fact that I am giving them time outdoors. It isn't really mine!
Because the internet is global and runs live at the speed of light twenty four hours a day, there really is no reason why we can't work on it when there's fewer options for digression. Getting the job done is difficult when we can see the sun shining and the bluest of skies just wishing we would stand under it, so it can admire us.
For me, getting out and about hasn't always been a piece of cake. I've suffered with and still do, anxiety and depression to serious degrees. Only now that I am in the middle of my thirties am I slowly discovering my true sense of freedom, and ability to be myself. It was like there was a yoke on my self confidence, assuring me I was here speak when I'm spoken to, and to not ask for anything. Compared to people far exceeding my personal limitations for too long, perhaps growing up with He-Man had something to do with it, more of a Cringer than a Battle-cat, until of course I realised that most of the thinking was a lie.
In fact, when comparing self to another, we are causing ourselves a great disrespect. How can one thing as unique as a human being be compared to anything? Of course with poetry, we use metaphor to make a suggestion about a thing, or a person “Shall I compare thee to a summer's day?” well, sure you can, but the analogy would be entirely fanciful and inaccurate. The feeling though, might just be spot on. And this is where it counts. How does it feel to be compared to such a thing? How would you feel? Ask yourself.
Is it right to compare yourself to something? Yes, probably there are many times when we are like something else, analogies and metaphors are powerful tools to help communicate ideas when the technicalities would be too difficult to summarise. A group of people who need to know something are much more likely to understand something when it's likened to something else upon its description. “This car drives like a shopping trolley” could be a perfect way of putting an analogy in place that makes sense but could never be accurately true... I hope.
The best comparisons are made when we use nature as our starting point. Animals, trees, places even, they all have qualities that we can instantly ascribe to something else. The colour of a flower, the type of a building, a section of woodland, all of these things can be placed somewhere else to help paint a picture. But when it comes to people, we have to account for the way things are sensed in order to accurately portray something as deep as an individual personality. We know when things are pleasant and positive, and we know then they are not. Life has a dual sided expression and not all of it is instantly gratifying. Nature is brutal, tragic, and sometimes even revolting. Insults are easy, likening a person to something unpleasant is not a difficult thing to do, and causing upset by doing so only leads to judgement upon the source in the end. Finding something in nature which is positive, inspiring, and true to the point is much more rewarding, and not that difficult really. You're all superstars.
In the justification within a moment of emotion,
Things can be said which are untrue.
So feel before you think,
Think before you speak,
and Learn before you profess to know anything at all.